tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post2036021053159808960..comments2024-03-22T05:18:29.555-04:00Comments on Romance Bandits: MarriageLoucinda McGary aka Aunty Cindyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02217492654108300014noreply@blogger.comBlogger116125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-80275359980392712632009-05-17T21:51:00.000-04:002009-05-17T21:51:00.000-04:00Thanks everyone! :) I survived. And I REALLY appre...Thanks everyone! :) I survived. And I REALLY appreciate all your comments!limecellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15985786633434296297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-87628633837615348282009-05-17T21:21:00.000-04:002009-05-17T21:21:00.000-04:00Nancy said: Divorce isn't a "just." It's a life t...Nancy said: Divorce isn't a "just." It's a life trauma, and that's often true for people whose spouses have done unforgivably hurtful things that making any resolution but divorce unlikely. Still those spouses often grieve. I'm not sure people think ahead about things like that before committing to a doubtful relationship.<br /><br /><br />I can only say a heartfelt, AMEN.Jeanne (AKA The Duchesse)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03492480881584553111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-77605135528796364062009-05-17T19:58:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:58:00.000-04:00Joan and Jeanne, I can hook up anything that has a...Joan and Jeanne, I can hook up anything that has an instruction manual. However, I leave video game consoles to the boy, so he'll have to do your Wii, JT!<br /><br />And I want my phone to be just a danged phone!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-8975154391749679682009-05-17T19:53:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:53:00.000-04:00Gannon, congratulations on your 21 years together....Gannon, congratulations on your 21 years together. I think you have a point about people sometimes thinking, "If it doesn't work out, we'll just divorce."<br /><br />Divorce isn't a "just." It's a life trauma, and that's often true for people whose spouses have done unforgivably hurtful things that making any resolution but divorce unlikely. Still those spouses often grieve. I'm not sure people think ahead about things like that before committing to a doubtful relationship.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-71722005836788043932009-05-17T19:50:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:50:00.000-04:00Stacey wrote: I realized I deserved a husband who'...Stacey wrote: <I>I realized I deserved a husband who'd encourage my dreams and work with me in forging our future together--I went home from my first conference and told him so. And he listened :)</I> . . .<br /><br />Stacey, you talked, and he listened, and that's the secret elixir in a nutshell, I think. Everybody wants a supportive spouse, and I feel sorry for people who win the Golden Heart and stand up and say, "I hope somebody will buy this book because my husband says I can't come back to National until I sell." But part of me wants to say, "Why aren't you making these decisions together? Have you told him how important this is to you? Does he not care?"<br /><br />We make all major money decisions together, but a factor in those decisions is the level of importance the other person places on something.<br /><br />So good for both of you!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-92098110313847132262009-05-17T19:43:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:43:00.000-04:00Traveler, congratulations on 39 years! I also wan...Traveler, congratulations on 39 years! I also want to hear about Christie's trip.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-80430597880639114932009-05-17T19:42:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:42:00.000-04:00Christie, I care more about a marriage proposal in...Christie, I care more about a marriage proposal in a historical than a contemporary. I want a commitment in a romance (though taking it to the next level is okay with me in other kinds of books), nad in a historical, anything short of marriage isn't realistic.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-28733960192922743042009-05-17T19:40:00.001-04:002009-05-17T19:40:00.001-04:00Treethyme, add me to the list of those who think y...Treethyme, add me to the list of those who think your vows are beautiful. Congratulations on 39 years!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-10297797328864022122009-05-17T19:40:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:40:00.000-04:00LOL, Nancy. But we do love our tasteless GR. Seems...LOL, Nancy. But we do love our tasteless GR. Seems like an oxymoron that a rooster is tasteless.Christie Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188201459186901767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-24706414489483598482009-05-17T19:38:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:38:00.000-04:00Helen, congratulations on your 32 years! That's w...Helen, congratulations on your 32 years! That's wonderful.<br /><br />I hope your kids will change their minds at some point.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-15055047932192953062009-05-17T19:37:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:37:00.000-04:00Kirsten wrote: I don't need an actual wedding, but...Kirsten wrote: <I>I don't need an actual wedding, but I do like the epilogues with babies. I like to see Mr. Alpha brought low by an infant. </I> . . .<br /><br />Oh, yeah! Those scenes are always great.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-86355975484373933582009-05-17T19:36:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:36:00.000-04:00Christie wrote: I think we need to send the GR out...Christie wrote: <I>I think we need to send the GR out undercover to find him for you. After spending time with p226, I think the GR could manage this.</I> . . .<br /><br />The GR may well have acquired the necessary skills. However, no one has managed to instill taste in him, so far as I know. We'd best send Demetrius and Sven to be sure he brings the right Prince Charming home!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-87485216939722934702009-05-17T19:20:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:20:00.000-04:00Joan/Jeanne, I don't want my boys doing anything f...Joan/Jeanne, I don't want my boys doing anything for us. But we waited several years before we had kids so my oldest is only 16. I don't expect him to host a party for us. Maybe at 35 :)Christie Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188201459186901767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-57994604395720556692009-05-17T19:15:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:15:00.000-04:00Nancy said...
Oh, I finally found Trish's book! ...<I>Nancy said... <br /><br />Oh, I finally found Trish's book! One more stone on the TBR mountain . . .</I>I was at a booksigning at Borders yesterday. I couldn't find Trish's book but I finally found Kate's book. So I snatched that one up. Another for the tumbling TBR pile.Christie Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188201459186901767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-56833844863461860792009-05-17T19:10:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:10:00.000-04:00Anna Campbell said...
I don't think anyone has a...<I> Anna Campbell said... <br /> I don't think anyone has a completely trouble-free existence, even fictional heroes and heroines.<br /></I>Hey, I still want to keep my fantasy! LOLChristie Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188201459186901767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-8713422850930865862009-05-17T19:09:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:09:00.000-04:00Kate, I would be interested in knowing the statist...Kate, I would be interested in knowing the statistics for Mormons. I would assume they would be quite different because they do have a lower divorce rate. I'll bet they have a higher marriage rate too.Christie Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188201459186901767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-28953167698202655022009-05-17T19:05:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:05:00.000-04:00Susan, I love your story! It's absolutely wonderfu...Susan, I love your story! It's absolutely wonderful.Christie Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188201459186901767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-28356152993437436492009-05-17T19:01:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:01:00.000-04:00Nancy, I'm callin' you too, on the electronics...h...Nancy, I'm callin' you too, on the electronics...heehee.Jeanne (AKA The Duchesse)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03492480881584553111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-7802890653382874822009-05-17T19:00:00.000-04:002009-05-17T19:00:00.000-04:00Awwww, JT, that's lovely what you did. I know wha...Awwww, JT, that's lovely what you did. I know what you mean about making a statment with a party. My sibs and I kept after our parents to let us do a 25th or a 30th or a 35th, but they said, oh, no, don't go to any trouble.<br /><br />Drat us for listening to them. We never did anything and Mama was gone before their 40th.<br /><br />Wow, tough memory about your dad and the hospital experience.Jeanne (AKA The Duchesse)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03492480881584553111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-82487636115760800872009-05-17T18:57:00.000-04:002009-05-17T18:57:00.000-04:00In college, I worked at the campus radio station a...<I>In college, I worked at the campus radio station and learned, among other things, how to hook up various kinds of sound equipment</I>...<br /><br />LOL, Nancy. Ok, I'm calling you when I get my new HD TV and need my DVR/BluRay player/Wii put together :-)<br /><br />Don't think I won't...Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12566704374877697300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-65978580348350531272009-05-17T18:56:00.000-04:002009-05-17T18:56:00.000-04:00Nancy, I'm LOL about my characters and Anna's sche...Nancy, I'm LOL about my characters and Anna's scheming to get back at us for putting them through such bedevilment.<br /><br />Oh, the story ideas...Jeanne (AKA The Duchesse)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03492480881584553111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-4404899785678928102009-05-17T18:55:00.001-04:002009-05-17T18:55:00.001-04:00My parents married late. My Daddy was 39, my Mom l...My parents married late. My Daddy was 39, my Mom like 32. So they only got to make it to their 35th. <br /><br />When they had their 25th anniversay I made them a mult tiered little cake. We went to a special community Mass for couples celebrating 25 and 50 and my brother and I took them out to a "fancy" resturant.<br /><br />I wish now that I'd have had them a big party. But...I was only 24, my brother 22 and had no CLUE how to coordinate something like that.<br /><br />Their marriage was a commitment and I remember several instances of trying times...extended strikes at my Daddy's work, my mother's breast cancer and my brother being hit by a car (while Mom was in the hospital) and still remember my Daddy hurrying down the hospital corridor to find out about his son...he was ok but that image of his fear and worry and "OMG" is seared into my brain)<br /><br />At my Mom's funeral I did a picture montage and front and center was the one of she and Daddy coming out of the church on their wedding day. What better statement of their life together?Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12566704374877697300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-13423795750338953212009-05-17T18:55:00.000-04:002009-05-17T18:55:00.000-04:00Nancy said: Jeanne, the dh also married early and ...Nancy said: Jeanne, the dh also married early and divorced. Which is how he came to be available for moi, so I view this as a good thing. :-)<br /><br />Grins. Yeah, my DH says this about my early escapades. I lamented one time that I'd been married before. He simply smiled and said that I wouldn't be who I was if I hadn't had the experience, so it was cool with him.<br /><br />See why I love him?Jeanne (AKA The Duchesse)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03492480881584553111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-28964812015139362322009-05-17T18:51:00.000-04:002009-05-17T18:51:00.000-04:00Anna C. wrote But I like to feel that through what...Anna C. wrote <I>But I like to feel that through what they go through in my stories, they've shown they can weather any storm. </I> . . .<br /><br />Your characters, like Jeanne's, definitely have to prove that. In fact, if yours and hers ever put their heads together, the two of you may be in deep trouble!<br /><br />And Christie's latest pair in ETWK really had to suffer, too.<br /><br />All bandita characters suffer, now that I think of it, though not all of them experience the mayhem of which Jeanne and Anna C. seem so fond. And I do think that's part of what makes the HEA such a payoff.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-63438280481003244542009-05-17T18:47:00.000-04:002009-05-17T18:47:00.000-04:00Caren wrote: I was terrified when we married and o...Caren wrote: <I>I was terrified when we married and our first few years were really, really hard.</I>I was terrified, too, Caren. After working to become emotionally independent, I was scared to give that up and let somebody else have that kind of hold on my heart. And it hasn't always been easy, but the good times have far outweighed the tough ones.<br /><br />I sometimes envy the couples for whom it's easy, the ones who just mesh and never skid on the gravel. (Hi, Kirsten and Susan), but some of us just have less compatible baggage. :-)Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705259501965011703noreply@blogger.com