tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post2519823918230841001..comments2024-03-22T05:18:29.555-04:00Comments on Romance Bandits: Pay AttentionLoucinda McGary aka Aunty Cindyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02217492654108300014noreply@blogger.comBlogger83125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-36491263612092313782008-02-10T21:36:00.000-05:002008-02-10T21:36:00.000-05:00P226 said:Now, I just want to make something clear...P226 said:<BR/><BR/><I>Now, I just want to make something clear here. When I used the term "mushy" I was describing Valentine's day, not Cassondra's post.</I><BR/><BR/>LOL! Yeah, we knew that. (grin)Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-26905340103945797092008-02-10T21:34:00.000-05:002008-02-10T21:34:00.000-05:00Terri said:It was so easy when we were dating but ...Terri said:<BR/><BR/><I>It was so easy when we were dating but it just vanishes. We know it is there but it just needs to be brought back to life</I><BR/><BR/>Yup. Not always easy though. Like Caren and Susan said, when you have little ones especially. They take about 150 percent of your energy!<BR/><BR/>Hey though, you guys did great with your cruise! I saw the pics and it looked wonderful!Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-12773580429161557492008-02-10T21:32:00.000-05:002008-02-10T21:32:00.000-05:00Esri said: I had never been out of the country and...Esri said:<BR/><BR/><I> I had never been out of the country and didn't have a passport. Joe had contacted my parents and had them mail my birth certificate (this was a long time ago). He was paying pretty good attention that time, I have to say.</I><BR/><BR/>Yes he was! Wow. That's a tough one to pull off--a trip out of town. Did he pack your makeup and all that stuff too? There is no WAY my husband could pack for me. I'd have thirty pairs of socks and no underwear. I'd end up wearing his clothes. (grin)<BR/><BR/>And yes, I have to admit. Your microwave does rate right up there with my rug. Although, it wasn't a particularly pretty rug....Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-45203458765028114282008-02-10T20:49:00.000-05:002008-02-10T20:49:00.000-05:00Great post! I loved this and plan on having my hu...Great post! I loved this and plan on having my husband read it. It is amazing how we do forget the romance in our lives. It was so easy when we were dating but it just vanishes. We know it is there but it just needs to be brought back to life.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09146968691153764330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-71583514945837220352008-02-10T13:59:00.000-05:002008-02-10T13:59:00.000-05:00Boy, you are so right. It is about paying attentio...Boy, you are so right. It is about paying attention.<BR/><BR/>Angel Joe once gave me a microwave for a present. I think that's right up there with your rug.<BR/><BR/>He did well, though, by taking me on a surprise trip for my birthday. He wouldn't tell me where it was, and from the stuff he put in the trunk, I thought we might be going camping in Utah. Then we took the highway exit to the airport, and he told the driver we wanted Mexicana airport. I had never been out of the country and didn't have a passport. Joe had contacted my parents and had them mail my birth certificate (this was a long time ago). He was paying pretty good attention that time, I have to say.Esri Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912657945785764363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-57971127000013430712008-02-08T23:26:00.000-05:002008-02-08T23:26:00.000-05:00Ooh, C, you put things so beautifully. You're righ...Ooh, C, you put things so beautifully. You're right about the fact that these characters reach a point where they have to express their feelings or that's it! And hey, do yourself a favour and get out N&S. You won't be sorry, girlfriend ;-)Anna Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06695579361323275316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-19995203134313774072008-02-08T22:31:00.000-05:002008-02-08T22:31:00.000-05:00Yeah, actually, there's a lot more to the story, b...Yeah, actually, there's a lot more to the story, but I'm not at liberty to talk about it. I will say that the object retrieved was a drum - not a comfortable thing to carry - and that I had been on the verge of breaking up with him when he did it. What's more is I ran into him on the trail head with it in hand when I started out to get it myself. Also I'll add that I married him.<BR/><BR/>As to powertools - I get all mine from my mother. Dh has no interest in them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-65253899165084655542008-02-08T22:21:00.000-05:002008-02-08T22:21:00.000-05:00Now, I just want to make something clear here. Wh...Now, I just want to make something clear here. When I used the term "mushy" I was describing Valentine's day, not Cassondra's post. I'd hope that was obvious, but I just want to be crystal clear. Because, as usual, she has this uncanny ability to make neanderthals like me look inward and go, "doh!" Mush wouldn't have that effect on me. I would've surfed on to Dilbert by the first paragraph.p226https://www.blogger.com/profile/05502193525250005347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-75338983326583207412008-02-08T22:02:00.000-05:002008-02-08T22:02:00.000-05:00Oh, man, where is that emoticon? I want one. :>I...Oh, man, where is that emoticon? I want one. :><BR/><BR/>I'm really lucky that my guy's never bought me a tool or "thing" that really, he wanted.Jeanne (AKA The Duchesse)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03492480881584553111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-12167937913698894432008-02-08T21:30:00.000-05:002008-02-08T21:30:00.000-05:00Jeanne said:Oh, and FWIW, I love power tools, so i...Jeanne said:<BR/><BR/><I>Oh, and FWIW, I love power tools, so if my DH gets me a Home Depot gift certificate, I'm in heaven. Snork. Then again, he does pretty good with jewelry too - or did before the college funds became the priority! (I still get power tools, though! Grins)</I><BR/><BR/>Me too, Jeanne. I love them. I have a bunch of my own. But there are those guys, you know the ones, who buy HER what HE wants....?????<BR/><BR/>(insert the "no-no, bad boy" emoticon here.)Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-32976391049325640862008-02-08T21:18:00.000-05:002008-02-08T21:18:00.000-05:00*Mushy* is for mud and peas. Bleech. Romantic? ...*Mushy* is for mud and peas. Bleech. Romantic? THAT's good. Cassondra, what a wonderful post!! You're always so insightful. <BR/><BR/>I LOVE Mohicans. In fact the soundtrack went with me to Labor and Delivery on my first child...the nurses got REALLY tired of it. (It was a long, stormy night.) Originally, I saw LOTMohicans b/c it's filmed near my adopted hometown of Asheville, NC and my brother's an extra. I read the book - didn't like it - so I wasn't that hopeful for the movie. *sigh* OMGoodness.<BR/><BR/>Cassondra and P226, I'm so with you on that "actions speak louder" thing. It's my barometer. When my DH proposed, he set up the most amazing dinner, night out Event I could have ever wanted, including a gorgeous suite in a hotel and he even remembered to bring us both a change of clothes AND my contact lens case! His actions spoke VERY loudly of his care and committment. They still do. <BR/><BR/>You DID nail it, Cassondra, it's all about attention. I love that I still have his attention, and I try to be sure to give him mine, even wth the kids. :> I think he would say the best thing I did for him was on one of those "0" birthdays. I pulled off two major surprises, including a trip to Chicago with great Cubs tickets, and some of that precious alone time someone mentioned. He's STILL talking about it two years later. Grins.<BR/><BR/>Kiera, so glad you liked the class! Even incremental changes in your space help, so go for it!<BR/><BR/>Oh, and FWIW, I love power tools, so if my DH gets me a Home Depot gift certificate, I'm in heaven. Snork. Then again, he does pretty good with jewelry too - or did before the college funds became the priority! (I still get power tools, though! Grins)Jeanne (AKA The Duchesse)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03492480881584553111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-2495563196197484522008-02-08T21:02:00.000-05:002008-02-08T21:02:00.000-05:00P226 said:THAT, is the way I try to be. Probably t...P226 said:<BR/><BR/><I>THAT, is the way I try to be. Probably the way most of us try to be. I think we usually fail.<BR/><BR/>*g*<BR/></I><BR/><BR/>Well, there was another sentence after that one that said "clearly" and I think that's the part a lot of guys miss. You know, buying the wife a power tool he really wants for her birthday.....ahem...yeah..stuff like that. (grin)Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-53184185603382509952008-02-08T20:49:00.000-05:002008-02-08T20:49:00.000-05:00His actions spoke for his intentions.THAT, is the ...<I>His actions spoke for his intentions.</I><BR/><BR/>THAT, is the way I try to be. Probably the way most of us try to be. I think we usually fail.<BR/><BR/>*g*p226https://www.blogger.com/profile/05502193525250005347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-50468573157270290542008-02-08T19:56:00.000-05:002008-02-08T19:56:00.000-05:00(hastily) Thanks for your super offer, Cassondra, ...<I>(hastily)</I> Thanks for your super offer, Cassondra, but I might have to rethink my offer to trade. :) <BR/><BR/>Yep, it was one of those super gadgety numbers. BTW, that wasn't my story, it was Sophia Nash's. As for me, a jar of Nutella and an hour of conversation (see, I don't come cheap, an hour's an hour's an hour) will win me over faster than any gadgets, rocks, what-have-yous.Keira Soleorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14440213826734580889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-38261005540743858972008-02-08T19:05:00.000-05:002008-02-08T19:05:00.000-05:00Suz said:C- No, he doesn't but then would any woma...Suz said:<BR/><BR/><I>C- No, he doesn't but then would any woman if he told her that in such an intense way? She got the message...Loud and Clear! hehehe...so did I! </I><BR/><BR/>Yeah, me too Suz. And I think that says a lot. There wasn't any doubt because he was so forthright and so focused on her. No hem-hawing around about it. His actions spoke for his intentions. Clearly. And there was no.."wow, you've got a hot sister" going on either.<BR/><BR/>I think that's part of the point. You don't have to be Shakespeare if you pay attention to what's needed at the time and rise to the occasion.Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-47240343697754905712008-02-08T18:53:00.000-05:002008-02-08T18:53:00.000-05:00C- No, he doesn't but then would any woman if he t...C- No, he doesn't but then would any woman if he told her that in such an intense way? She got the message...Loud and Clear! hehehe...so did I!Suzanne Ferrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05761579189372602292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-79333424073172796242008-02-08T18:52:00.000-05:002008-02-08T18:52:00.000-05:00Oh, and Keira, considering the mixer...if it was o...Oh, and Keira, considering the mixer...if it was one of those hot red $300 Kitchen aid numbers....I might be won over...(grin)Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-91865519606738281652008-02-08T18:51:00.000-05:002008-02-08T18:51:00.000-05:00Keira said:OMG!!! I'm in love with your husband. W...Keira said:<BR/><BR/><I>OMG!!! I'm in love with your husband. Wanna trade? (just for the next couple weeks or so)</I><BR/><BR/>Well, he's been sick and real whiney lately. I'm not so sure that'd be a good trade for you at the moment. <BR/><BR/>And based on that STORY you told, I'm thinkin it might be a trade up for me. We have our high points and low points, same as everybody else. Lately when I'm picking his clothes up off the floor, there've been a few murderous thoughts....Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-65372010272049795992008-02-08T18:48:00.000-05:002008-02-08T18:48:00.000-05:00Suz said:C, he does tell her "No matter what happe...Suz said:<BR/><BR/><I>C, he does tell her "No matter what happens, stay alive....and I'll find you!"</I><BR/><BR/>Yes, he does. Underneath the waterfall--"no matter where they take you, I'll find you..."<BR/><BR/>BUT that's not the big THREE WORDS ya know? <BR/><BR/>As far as I remember, he never says those words in the film.Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-36397969692349932992008-02-08T17:59:00.000-05:002008-02-08T17:59:00.000-05:00Cassondra, I adored your blog from that first gold...Cassondra, I adored your blog from that first golden picture down to the last word. Fab-fab writing! <BR/><BR/>If you think a rug is the worst gift, consider a mixer/blender. Oh yes. <BR/><BR/><B>OMG!!!</B> I'm in love with your husband. Wanna trade? (just for the next couple weeks or so)<BR/><BR/>Here's the story of the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me. <A HREF="http://romancenovel.tv/forum/viewtopic.php?p=26474#26474" REL="nofollow"><B>story</B></A><BR/><BR/>Most romantic date? At the beach on a sunny day in deep conversation with ideas flowing and lots of laughter.<BR/><BR/>Best Kiss: The last two scenes of <I>North and South</I> with Richard da man Armitage.<BR/><BR/>Jeanne: I just finished listening your National 2007 workshop. I adored it! Absolutely adored it. My office is a huge mess. I keep doing incremental changes, but really, it needs a complete rehaul.Keira Soleorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14440213826734580889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-24618952310733225112008-02-08T17:37:00.000-05:002008-02-08T17:37:00.000-05:00I think it's important to notice that in The Last ...<I>I think it's important to notice that in The Last of The Mohicans, as far as I remember, DDL never actually proclaims anything to the heroine. He looks at her, and he remains focused on her through the film, and it's clear that the feelings are mutual and he simply goes about being who he is. At that point, who he was included rescuing the heroine in the course of the story.</I> <BR/><BR/>C, he does tell her "No matter what happens, stay alive....and I'll find you!"<BR/><BR/>Big sigh here in Big DSuzanne Ferrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05761579189372602292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-45703662701775476872008-02-08T17:03:00.000-05:002008-02-08T17:03:00.000-05:00Anna said:Cassondra, another scene that has that f...Anna said:<BR/><BR/><I>Cassondra, another scene that has that focus is the end of North and South </I><BR/><BR/>*heavy sigh*<BR/><BR/>Another one I haven't seen (ducks the flying fruit). I know, I know. I've got to make time to see these.<BR/><BR/><I>I think the fear is inbuilt in every single romance novel I've ever read. That's part of the enduring appeal of the genre </I><BR/><BR/>Do you suppose it's because if it's easy, it doesn't mean as much? If you have to face down the real inner demons to get what you want, it's clear that what you want is important. <BR/><BR/>And I think by the time the characters have gone through the torture we put them through, and actually come to the point of saying it, it's an all-or-nothing thing. There's nothing else left but to say it or, metaphorically, die.Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-1614932522928869802008-02-08T16:55:00.000-05:002008-02-08T16:55:00.000-05:00Awww, all these stories are making me all mushy! B...Awww, all these stories are making me all mushy! Beware, P226! <BR/><BR/>Cassondra, another scene that has that focus is the end of North and South (warning, Richard Armitage fangirl moment coming up). He looks at her like she's the whole world just wrapped up in one gorgeous package. I don't think he declares his feelings in words either then (although he does earlier and gets humiliated for his courage, poor darling). But his eyes, the expression on his face, the reverent way he touches her? Oh, yeah, that tells everything! <BR/><BR/>P226, I think the fear is inbuilt in every single romance novel I've ever read. That's part of the enduring appeal of the genre - that bit is so true! Cassondra, well said!Anna Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06695579361323275316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-60089515315334915522008-02-08T16:54:00.000-05:002008-02-08T16:54:00.000-05:00Actually flchen, I thought you said it quite well....Actually flchen, I thought you said it quite well.<BR/><BR/>Who wouldn't be thrilled with that look and being told that somebody cares more for you than any other person in the world?<BR/><BR/>Well, as long as he's not a stalker, ya know? ;0)Cassondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420982030156788059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3815530646091177574.post-12977744206122672712008-02-08T16:50:00.000-05:002008-02-08T16:50:00.000-05:00Thanks, Cassondra--that's what I mean :) That's w...Thanks, Cassondra--that's what I mean :) That's why you're a writer, and I'm a reader :)Fedorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10879033776125666713noreply@blogger.com