
But not only was he a brilliant athlete, a charmer with the gift of the gab (he was Irish, after all),
he was a thoroughly good man. When he heard I played softball and netball at school, he bought me a netball hoop and showed me how Donald Bradman used to repeatedly hit a cricket ball in the air on his bat to improve his hand-eye co-ordination. He was a gentleman who seemed as happy drinking tea with my mother or throwing a ball with a little girl as he was going out with the lads. And he made everyone laugh. The time he imitated the captain of the French Rugby team sticks in my mind. I mean, have you ever heard an Irishman imitate a Frenchman? A perfect hero for a romance novel, though he would have laughed off the idea. Did I mention he was modest, too?


As the years went on, he still wrote to the family and I wrote back, though I admit I'm not the best correspondent in the world. When I was married, he sent a beautiful marriage creed and on the birth of my first son, he sent an Irish Rugby teddy bear that unzips and turns inside out to become a football. Sure and they're never too young to start playing Rugby, he'd say.
When I was in my twenties I finally visited Ireland for a few days and stayed with friends who were living there. I had his telephone number, knew where he lived.
But I agonized. I worried. Would he be the same? Would he even want to see me? Would we have anything to talk about after all these years? You see, he'd become such a mythical figure in my mind, such a hero (and no, I wasn't still in love with him, being happily married by that time!) I simply choked when I thought of meeting him again.

I finally plucked up the courage to call. And I missed him. I didn't manage to make contact until after I'd left Ireland, and it was too late.
I don't know when I'll get to the Emerald Isle again. I wish I'd seen him when I'd had the chance.
Now, our Joanie T is off to Ireland (yay JT!) and it made me think of this man, and all the opportunities we miss when we're too diffident or too scared to take a chance. So after I finish writing this blog, I'm going to write to him. And maybe one day, we'll meet again.
Do you have any regrets? A person you lost contact with, a manuscript that's polished to perfection but you haven't sent out for fear of rejection? How about joining me and make a resolution to change that today?