After an incredible week of guest bloggers, I'm struck by how different all of these books we call "romance" can be. We've got paranormal, historical, contemporary...you name it. But they share one thing, right? The happily ever after. Or as we call it in the business, the HEA.
But what does it REALLY take to live HEA? My husband's grandfather passed away this winter. He was 98. His widow is 87. They were married 73 years. (Yeah, they got married when she was 14. But he promised not to have sex with her until she was 16. And they moved from Old Mexico--today Arizona--up to Colorado in a covered wagon. So they were pretty amazing folks.)
Let's take a moment to digest that. 73 years. A lot happens in 73 years. People change, develop, grow. But somehow those two not only grew old together, they grew more in love all the time.
Sometimes, you read a romance and say to yourself--these people will never make it. No way. You might as well sign the pre-nup because the divorce is just around the corner. Sometimes, you know in your heart they would live to celebrate their 73 wedding anniversary. But how do you know the difference?
They say opposites attract, and some long-lasting marriages fit into this boat. I'm an introvert, my husband's an extrovert. It not only works, but it makes us both better people. But you put some opposites together and they wear each other down, rub that sore spot until they're ready to explode. What's the difference?
So tell me, can you predict a HEA? Are there heros and heroines you know will make it--or those you know are destined for divorce court? What makes love last?